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 Post subject: Need help
PostPosted: Sun Jun 27, 2010 7:48 pm 

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Hi, I have an interesting situation I would love to get some opinions on.

I recently got pregnant, while on birth control. I have not known the father for long, about 3 months. Not only have I not known him for long, but he lives in the US while I am in Canada. We do not have what I would call an even remotely stable relationship. I do love him, but he can be difficult to say the least. He's not abusive in any way, just difficult.
When I first told him about the baby, he was shocked, of course. I had told him I was on birth control so we didn't use a condom. Bad decision on our part. But waht's done is done. After talking for a bit he was overjoyed. I had honestly never heard him so happy in the time that I've known him. I was so worried about telling him in the first place, that this was a very welcome relief.
I guess you can say that kind of ended. I spoke with him two days ago and he asked me to consider having an abortion. He said after having some more time to think about it he's not ready. He brought up alot of money issues, and the difficulty we may have getting me there and getting me working. There were other things he brought up, all of which I have given thought to. None of the points he made were invalid.
I can't have an abortion. I do not believe in killing my baby. I just could not do it. I also do not want to have to do this on my own. I will if I have to, but I don't want to. I know that there's a huge part of him that wants to be a dad. I heard that on the day I told him. I just want to know how I get him back to that. I know it won't be easy. But my baby deserves a dad too. And he's be a great one. I guess I just need advice on how I make him see this. If it's even worth it to try. Should I just do this on my own? Is this maybe a normal response to having your world turned upside down? Any help or advice would be soooo greatly appreciated.

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