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mrsvoll27 · Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: Fort Hood, TX

Hey guys,

I just found out I am not pregant. My husband and I decide to adopt because I alsoo found out I may never be able to have kids, well I cant adopt until I am 25. My husband is going to Iraq in Oct. and we wanted to start a family before he went. Now we won't be able to.

I am soooooo depressed! What do I do now??????

Hannah's Mommy · Joined: 07 Dec 2004 Posts: 601 Location: Toronto

I'm so sorry! How did you find all of that out??? Crying or Very sad

Suzanne · Joined: 22 Mar 2005 Posts: 234

Oh, that is awful, I am so sorry Sad

Can you at least start the adoption process? I hear it can take years, how old are you now?

mrsvoll27 · Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: Fort Hood, TX

I am 19!!

tryingFORaLIFE · Joined: 28 Nov 2005 Posts: 44 Location: Gettysburg OH

me and my husband were going to adopt before i got pregant because we didi think we could have kids and in ohio you only have to be 21!!! sorry about the the bad news

mrsvoll27 · Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: Fort Hood, TX

Thanks, but i dont know what i am gonna do now! My hubby goes to Iraq in Oct and with his job he maybe not come back he has the most dangerous job in the military so we really wanted to start a family before he letf just in case something happened. So what do I do now???? HELP!!!!

Suzanne · Joined: 22 Mar 2005 Posts: 234

Well, I'm sure you don't want to hear this but. . .you are still SO SO SO young, with SO much time to have children.. I know its lousy, but there is a reason why adoption agencies don't let 19 year olds adopt. Plus, adoption is very expensive, so I suppose all you can do it save up your money.

tracey with 6 · Posted: Sat Jan 28, 2006 7:03 pm Post subject:

First off,obviously you thought you may be pregnant so there is a chance you may be able to, go and see a ob/gyn and look more into your fertility. I was told at 16 I would never have children because of scared fallopian tubes,however 2 simple procedures and now I have no problem infact I have 6 children! My advice is do more reserch! Good Luck Laughing

Isabel_Kitty · Joined: 01 Apr 2004 Posts: 92

Chelle J · Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 120 Location: New Zealand

Im sorry your having a hard time at the moment. Could you go see a doctor and get more info on why you cant have children there might be something that can be done so that you can concieve.

mrsvoll27 · Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: Fort Hood, TX

Thank you everyone...

The thing is Im scared to go to the doctor because What if something is wrong. And I have thought about the fact that my husband won't be around a lot and its fine with me Ive been doing everything on my own since i was 12 so i am used to it. I even to care os my younger Brother when he was little. I mean I know how it is to be alone, my 2 big brother are in the army as well , and my sister in law has raised 4 kids by herself because my brother has been in Iraq more than he has been at home. And now i am facing more than just my hubby going to iraq. He is joining Special Froces and he will be gone for 2 years straight. So I dont know what to do. I wanna have a baby for himmost of all cause he is te one that want one. I do to in a way but i am afarid I will ever have one and that something will happen to him and i will be alone for every. plus if something does happen to him and we dont' have a child his blood lie will end. What should I do? Thanks for ALL the help!!!!!!!

mrsvoll27 · Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 32 Location: Fort Hood, TX

Also about the money issue........the army pays for adoption so that is not even an issue!!!!

Hannah's Mommy · Joined: 07 Dec 2004 Posts: 601 Location: Toronto

ok hun if you are having doubts on wether or not you want to have children, adopted or biological, then you should NOT have kids just because your hubby wants to! Seriously, you BOTH need to be ready! It would be a big mistake to have kids just b/c someone else wants you to! Mabey you should really reconsider this situation! Also being too scared to go to the doctor wont help matters at all, you need to know asap so you can deal with it and move forward. It's not about whats best for you, your DH or keeping his bloodline going or whatever, it's about the child, first and foremost. I hope you guys can work through this and decide whats best, good luck!

Riki · Joined: 03 Nov 2005 Posts: 61 Location: The Land Down Under

You said in your first post that you just found out you may never be able to have kids. What exactly did they say? Im not sure why you are scared to go to the doc 'because what if they find something wrong' thats the whole point of visiting a fertility specialist so that they can find whats wrong and fix it. There is HEAPS they can do for fertility problems and you are very young and have that on your side.
Have you visited a fertility specialist?

SpecialK · Joined: 29 Jan 2006 Posts: 20

I have a couple of friends who were told that they couldn't have kids. One in particular...her and her husband started the paperwork for adoption opportunities, and then she popped up pregnant. Proved the doctors wrong. Now, she is pregnant with their second child. I am not sayig that it will happen for you, but don't give up. Just enjoy your time with your husband.