Posted by Becka on November 18, 2003 at 14:27:36:
In Reply to: Someone help!!! sorry so long posted by a desperate girl in search for help!!! on November 18, 2003 at 13:35:57:
: I am in a terrible situation ...
: I live with my fiance and he has 2 kids ... I love them but he had them toooo young and they are only a year apart two boys at that ... the kids mom abandoned them over a year ago and he took care of them well I am taking care of them because obviously if I want to be with him I have to accept his kids also ...
: well I think my fiance was looking for someone like a mother figure for his kids ... and now i'm stuck practically raising them because my fiance works at night and sleeps all day ... i currently don't work but i do the cleaning cooking all that house wife duties ... and it sucks because just months ago i was single, living on my own, by i was with him, so its a big jump. it's not that i don't love his kids, it's just that i am not ready for that responsibility ... i think ... i am also very young ... and i don't know what to do ...
: here is the worst part today ... i went to the gyn ... to get a regular pap exam and get on some type of birth control ... seeing that i am so stressed with my fiances bad a** sons i decided that i was not going to have any children right now ... because i figured that my our relantionship might eventually die out since two kids are involved ... well it turned out that i am pregnant ... that was so devastating to me ... and it sucks because i have no job ... i was in the process of looking for one and i love shopping and i was just going to try to find a way around or out the this motherly responsibility that is not suppose to be my obligation ... i don't know what to do ... i don't beleive in abortion and this sucks since lately i have found myself thinking alot about a guy who i met that is single NO KIDS and i think likes me even though he knows that i have a fiance ... he is actually my fiances friend ...
: some comforting advice ...
: I just want to die right now!!!!!! i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!
You need to talk to your doctor on things and choices that can help you. If you knew you didnt want to become a mom from your experience and how young his kids are. You should have doubled your protection. You have some major choices to make. You need to talk to you gyn and find out what is best for you and if you feel like you dont want ((his package deal)). You need to get out. It not fair to him or the kids. I wouldn't be thinking on another guy either. You have to much in your plate right now to be thinking another guy.
JMO
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