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Posted by Brittany on January 14, 2001 at 17:37:32:
In Reply to: Re: baby not sleeping on his own posted by DAD on October 16, 2000 at 12:16:01:
: You have the patience of a saint and your son is very lucky to have a mother who is so willing to sacrifice everything for him. : I agree with you that if you have a healthy/happy baby, you have not failed as a parent. But I must disagree with you that to continue to give in to your child's wishes regarding sleeping on his own. : I am sorry to hear that your Son vomited while crying. I can understand how upsetting that can be. But believe it or not, it is not uncommon for a child to vomit during crying. Think about the strain really intense sobbing puts on the abdomen of an adult. Intense crying is known to cause spasms in the stomach and esophagus, which is basically what causes vomiting. So it makes perfect sense that a child would throw up while crying for an extended period of time. This is a PYSIOLOGICAL result and NOT caused by emotional stress, though it is not uncommon to think that it is. : Please understand that I wouldn't even dare to suggest ways for you to raise your child. Obviously you are OK with your method and it works for you. Again, I think your son is very lucky to have a Mother as caring and willing to make sacrifices as you... But I had to chime in when you said that the experts are full of it regarding the ferber method of teaching a child to sleep on his own. I don't believe it does any harm. My son, and my nephew, and pretty much every child in my extended family went through this and all of us are OK. No harm done at all. : Good luck to you and all the best. : Dad I have to agree with Mr. Dad. Your son has learned that crying, no matter how long or short he does it, eventually will bring you to him. I went through the very same thing with my son. I would recommend the book BabyWise to you- it helped me beyond words and now i get an awesome nigts rest. your child needs to learn that your home is not run by him, but by his parents. I know how difficult it is listening to his screaming for hours, but at some point, for your own sanity, his will has to be broken when it comes to that. please read BabyWise- it will do wonders if you are willing to go through it step by step. nothing happens overnight! Good luck and God Bless you!
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