Posted by Teacher on November 27, 2003 at 23:53:44:
In Reply to: crying too much of a 4 month child posted by Gauuri Dixit on November 27, 2003 at 15:00:33:
One Q & A section on baby behavior in my newest Parents Magazine said that we can’t over cuddle the young ones. Dr. Gordon, who was also the author of Listening to Your Baby, wrote the section. He says, “When you don’t pick him up, he’ll just learn that Mommy and Daddy aren’t as reliable as he thought.” It went on to say that the more mommy & daddy comfort their baby in these earliest months, the more easily they will separate later. He actually says, “At this age, you are laying the basics of a lifelong relationship, and by heeding his cries, you’re setting up the trust that will allow him to separate more easily later on... You can set certain limits for him when he’s 9 months old or a year, but not now.”
From everything I've read I gather that until baby is around 9 months old, they need comforting when they cry. My pediatrician says that separation anxiety doesn't really start until around 7-9 months. I've also been using the sling both at home and in public which seems to help. Good luck and let us know what works!