Posted by Sue on June 10, 2003 at 10:51:39:
In Reply to: WHATS WRONG WITH PEOPLE????? warning long. posted by Nad on June 10, 2003 at 10:17:47:
: Just a short venting bout. I went to church this weekend. And an acquaintance there came up to me and asked me how far along I was. I said 3 month +. She then asks " So how come you got a belly?"
: I said I dunno my mum said I wont show till 5-6 months but I started showing early. She says I know about 4-5 months. Any how she holds me around the shoulder and whispers. I know what this is I think it is fat. Offers some flleting advice about not putting on too much weight and says I want when the baby comes to see you get back down and looking hot and stuff. I agreed and left. But to tell the truth I felt SOOOOOOO bad all day after that.
: Then there is a lady at work that is always bugging me to wear flat shoes. I intend to but I havent gotten around to getting a nice pair for work yet. What is wrong with everybody. I wonder what to say to them when they say these things. It may seem silly but it hurts.
: Then my mother cant seem to get excited with me. I am so glad to have the board that ya all can get excited with me over certain things. The other day I told her I was starting to feel the baby move. She said no I wasnt that I wouldnt feel it move ffor some time. Im not even four months yet. blah blah. Check me on the phone like a pathetic child trying to convince my mum that I felt the baby move. Since then I felt it much stronger but I basically decided I have nothing more to tell anybody. Sometimes its like if I didnt know I was pregnant Id doubt myself. People saying your not showing its fat, my mum saying the baby isnt moving. I mean. I wanted people to see Im pregnant so they can be excited but if you ask me they could really be a pain. Any ways too long already so Im gone.
Girl it's only going to get worse. This was my biggest gripe with my pregnancy. Free advice. Friends, relatives, neighbors, strangers on the street, the check out lady at the grocery store all with free advice. I know that mostly people mean well but after about 20 helpful people give you unsolicited advice or personal observations, it's enough to make you scream. You have the right approach, your pleasant and then walk away, and then get mad later. But your going to have to learn to just ignore it and not let it bug you. If you think you felt your baby move, than you probably did. If you need maternity clothes sooner than someone else thinks, than wear them anyway(there very comfy!!). And it's not fat, it's your baby. Be proud of your belly, pregnant women are beautiful, even when we pudge out. And trust me, the last thing on your mind when the baby comes is looking hot. In the first few months showers are even few and far betweeen. Be happy, do what you think is right for yourself and no matter what anyone says you should be excited everyday about your pregnancy and your baby.
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