Posted by prissy on July 04, 2003 at 09:36:35:
In Reply to: Mom-In-Law ...VENTING! Need I say more...(long) posted by Gina H on July 03, 2003 at 23:24:58:
: She's not my mom in law yet, but bf's mom, but anyway...
: My bf likes to go see his mom maybe once a month or so. She lives about 4 hrs away, and I CANNOT stand it there. We always get in a fight about it. His mom is a pothead. She acts liek shes 16. she relies on her bf to take care of her and her 2 girls 17(preg), and 16, and is on welfare, but spends all her $$ at the casino, and always asks US for money because "she has to pay____ bill or else they are gonna diconnect/turn it off" (yeah, right) or she asks his dad for $$ while hes in saudi arabia in the oil feilds workin his ASS OFF in the heat every other month, and when he comes home she drains him of all his $$ and by the time he goes back to Saudi, he's broke!! How selfish!And then to top it off he pays her cell bill and said shes gone over her mins and is gonna take her phone away, and she says, if you do im going to turn u in for alamony etc!! AAANNND Sh e has the odacity to SMOKE in front of her preg daughter!!
: Anyway I hate to go there partly cos of the chaos partly cos im a homebody, so how can I get all him to see how I feel about it w/o hurting him. I mean he loves her, thats his mom, I understand, but I love him sooo much and hate to her taking advantage him and his dad?? Ugh!! What to do, what to do...
: Gina H
well in the case of his dad well he is a grown man and he must not mind being taken as a fool cause if he did he would and could do something about all this.
as far as your b/f goes well the best thing you can do is tell him how you feel and then let it be cause that is his mom and you should not get in the way of that relationship. just let him know that you are there for him no matter what. eventually he too will see what she is all about and maybe then he will try to back off but you can NOT make him stay away from his mother. that is a bond that no one can forcefully break. and if you dont want to go then dont...tell him that you do not want to go and that you are not going to go. stand you ground with this. good luck :o)
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