Posted by Amy W. on March 20, 2004 at 22:24:19:
In Reply to: Re: Hey There! posted by Aprille on March 20, 2004 at 19:39:56:
Hey there,
I didn't mean to sound harsh. That is great that you have goals for yourself. My husband actually works in the Radiology field. He loves taking x-rays, loves the job. I understand not taking birth control for certain reasons. I to have not been able to take bc for certain reasons. I don't know what the rush is to have a baby, especially if you aren't married. I think a couple needs to make one commitment at a time. Enjoy your lives together before all your time is consumed with a little one. Anyways, good luck to you either way you decide. I am sorry that you had to endure a miscarriage. One of my bestfriends just had one and she is heartbroken. Take some more time and let yourself continue to get over it and have peace with it. Good luck!
Amy
Amy,
: Yes I know the risks of not being on birth control. I have many reasons why I am not on it but I really don't think that it is necessary to say them here. I am a very responsible person and if I were pregnant I would be able to raise the baby right. I have a REALLY GOOD JOB and I am in medical school getting a degree in radiology. If I am pregnant I would be able to take a little break from school. My bf owns his own a business with his dad he is also in school cause his father wants him to at least get a degree. If we were pregnant everything would be fine and we would be financially stable, the only reason why I don't want to get pregnant again is because I did have a miscarrage and it was one of the worst experiences of my life. The only reason why I would be worried if I were is that I feel that I am young but I do know the risks of having intercourse with no birth conrtol so I would accept that responsibility, it's no big deal really.
: Aprille
: : Dear April,
: : If you have sex at anytime, protected or unprotected you run the risk of getting pregnant. NOTHING is 100% risk free. Yes, there is a chance that you could be pregnant. The best thing to do is protect yourself so you have the smallest chance of getting pregnant. Get on birth control. That doesn't mean that your bf should just not "relieve" himself in you. THAT ISN'T PROPER BIRTH CONTROL! Have him also wear a condom. You shouldn't have a baby until you BOTH decide that you are ready? Don't you want better for yourself and more importantly your baby? Do you have a steady job? Your bf? Are you stable? Think about these things before you start making huge life changing decisions in your life. I am sorry that you had a miscarriage, but I believe that things happen for a reason. Use it as a positive reassurance that maybe you just aren't ready yet. Besides having a baby is a lot more fun when you don't have the stresses of money, where are you going to live, what are people going to think, i need a job, etc etc etc. Those shouldn't be factors, those should be mandatory. I know that it sounds like I am harping on you but I am just letting you know that there is more in life than having a baby. There is a right time to have a baby and right now may not be right for you. You deserve better than to have a baby right now and worry about money and if your bf has a job etc. Take care of yourself. Give yourself a few years of personal time before you turn your life around to take care of someone else. Please just think about what I said. The best thing to do is wait it out. Wait until your next period is due. If you don't get it, take a test. Use First Response or EPT. Good luck and I wish the best for you!
: : Hugs,
: : Amy W
: : I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. I haven't been on birth control for five months. I did get pregnant but I had a miscarrage, ever since then my boyfriend wants to try again (i don't agree). The other night we were making love and I told him not to "relieve" hisself in me. He did anyway but I had just ended my period. How soon can I find out if I am pregnant. Is there even a possiblity that I could be?
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