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Advice please?

Posted by Emma on March 30, 2004 at 03:33:17:

Hello everyone, I was wondering if someone might be so kind as to read this and offer me some advice. I am 20 years old and a sophomore in college. I have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years consistently, and we have a very strong and loving relationship. We have always been very responsible when it comes to sex. I have only been sexually active for about a year and a half- my boyfriend and I lost our virginity to eachother after high school. We did not want to take the risk of having sex while still in high school. We have always used a condom with spermicide, and I usually use an applicator full of spermicide gel or foam as well. In addition to those precautions, he usually pulls out just before he ejaculates, just in case. I realize there is still a risk of getting pregnant, and that nothing is 100% safe. I have always wanted children and to get married, more than anything. Even at the age of 20 I have a very strong maternal instinct. My boyfriend is also very responsible and hardworking, and really wants a family. We plan to get married when I graduate college, and have children soon after.
Here's the issue: my period most months is right on time. This month it was supposed to come on the 26th or 27th, so it is about 3 days late. This has happened to me in the past, especially when I am very stressed out (which i certainly have been the past few weeks, because of school). I know I have no reason to worry too much just yet, and that chances are I am not pregnant. I haven't had any symptoms, except feeling a little bloated, with sore breasts, and a little emotional- but these are symptoms I experience each month before my period. I have never had unprotected sex, but I am still slightly worried. If I am pregnant I know I am ready to raise a child, and so is my boyfriend. We have talked about this many times. However I am most scared about telling my family. I know everything would turn out okay, I'm just... scared. Any support right now would be great. Thank you. ~Emma

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