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Re: What happened to my angel? (kind of long sorry!!)

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Posted by Elizabeth on June 19, 2003 at 01:26:56:

In Reply to: What happened to my angel? (kind of long sorry!!) posted by Kelley D on June 19, 2003 at 01:11:40:

: I have to admit I have had my first 7 months of being a first time mommy EXTREMELY easy! She's been sleeping through the night since 3 months and has always been such a happy little girl. Very rarely cried. (only when constipated and for a bottle in the mornings thats it!!) WELL...she just turned 8 months and boy have things changed!! I don't get it! EVERY time I lay her on her back to change her diaper or clothes she starts to cry. Sometimes I can distract her with a toy or bottle but for the past few days when lay her down on her back she immediately begins to cry. Do you think that something hurts or is she just being rotten? She can roll around an play on the floor all she wants and doesn't cry but if I have a diaper or want to change her clothes she throws the biggest fit! She has two teeth coming in (the first ones so far)on the bottom that just started coming up Sunday. She's been very whiney lately and I'm not sure if that could be the problem or not. Or else and I don't know how but I think maybe I've spoiled her somehow. I have never been one to hold her all day long. Not at all. I'll get down on the floor and play with her or she'll get in her walker but OUT of NOWHERE she want's to be held all the time!! If I go to put her down she starts crying! Usually a toy will work if I have to put her down to do something but I feel bad. But on the otherhand I if she's spoiled already I don't want to spoil her more by picking her up and carrying her around the house all day long! I had to cook with her in my arms today. She's also so clingy this week. Sometimes her daddy reaches his arms out for her and she smiles but turns away from him and grabs on to me. It really hurts his feelings!! Do you think this behavior could be from teething or is she becoming a spoiled baby? I can't think of what I've done to spoil her. If she's into something she's not supposed to have (like her favorite ...my magazines)I take it from her. She gets mad but gets over it in less than a second. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong or what I should be doing! I know it's not the end of the world but it's a little frustrating now because I haven't had to deal with this until now! I feel like I can't get anything done around the house anymore and I don't think my b/f understands the constant attention she needs now so I feel like he thinks I'm just being lazy! My last question is about teething though. What should I do about giving her Tylonol or Motrin. How do I know if she needs it? I've used Baby Oragel but she hasn't cried out in pain or anything. I know the cry when something hurts from her previous bowel problems. She only crys when I sit her down after holding her awhile but I know those little gums have to hurt. So do I wait until she has a tantrum or crys for no reason at all or what?! I don't know!!!! UHHH I'm starting to think I'm not very good at being a mommy! I don't know what to do or whats going on anymore!!!!!! Any advice or opinons would be great! I'm so sorry this is so long. I'm just clueless right now! Is she spoiled or just teething?! Thanks so much!!

I have been through this. I have a 1-1/2 and 3-year-old. The problem is a combination of teething and her trying to control you. I believe you should give her Advil which can last up to 8 hours. That is the strongest medication for any type of pain. Also, she needs to learn that it can be fun playing by herself too. Trust me, I had the same problem. My daughter didn't even let me go to the bathroom and wanted me to hold her while I was sitting on the toilet and would throw a tantrum if I didn't. You have to let her cry sometimes and then she will realize that it won't get her anywhere and then learn to play by herself and like to be around other people too like your husband.

And, don't every think you are not being a good mommy. Everyone is still learning to be a mommy. Even when your kids are teenagers, you are still going to be learning.

Hope this helps and good luck.

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