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Re: What happened to my angel? (kind of long sorry!!)


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Posted by Sue on June 19, 2003 at 10:19:00:

In Reply to: What happened to my angel? (kind of long sorry!!) posted by Kelley D on June 19, 2003 at 01:11:40:

: I have to admit I have had my first 7 months of being a first time mommy EXTREMELY easy! She's been sleeping through the night since 3 months and has always been such a happy little girl. Very rarely cried. (only when constipated and for a bottle in the mornings thats it!!) WELL...she just turned 8 months and boy have things changed!! I don't get it! EVERY time I lay her on her back to change her diaper or clothes she starts to cry. Sometimes I can distract her with a toy or bottle but for the past few days when lay her down on her back she immediately begins to cry. Do you think that something hurts or is she just being rotten? She can roll around an play on the floor all she wants and doesn't cry but if I have a diaper or want to change her clothes she throws the biggest fit! She has two teeth coming in (the first ones so far)on the bottom that just started coming up Sunday. She's been very whiney lately and I'm not sure if that could be the problem or not. Or else and I don't know how but I think maybe I've spoiled her somehow. I have never been one to hold her all day long. Not at all. I'll get down on the floor and play with her or she'll get in her walker but OUT of NOWHERE she want's to be held all the time!! If I go to put her down she starts crying! Usually a toy will work if I have to put her down to do something but I feel bad. But on the otherhand I if she's spoiled already I don't want to spoil her more by picking her up and carrying her around the house all day long! I had to cook with her in my arms today. She's also so clingy this week. Sometimes her daddy reaches his arms out for her and she smiles but turns away from him and grabs on to me. It really hurts his feelings!! Do you think this behavior could be from teething or is she becoming a spoiled baby? I can't think of what I've done to spoil her. If she's into something she's not supposed to have (like her favorite ...my magazines)I take it from her. She gets mad but gets over it in less than a second. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong or what I should be doing! I know it's not the end of the world but it's a little frustrating now because I haven't had to deal with this until now! I feel like I can't get anything done around the house anymore and I don't think my b/f understands the constant attention she needs now so I feel like he thinks I'm just being lazy! My last question is about teething though. What should I do about giving her Tylonol or Motrin. How do I know if she needs it? I've used Baby Oragel but she hasn't cried out in pain or anything. I know the cry when something hurts from her previous bowel problems. She only crys when I sit her down after holding her awhile but I know those little gums have to hurt. So do I wait until she has a tantrum or crys for no reason at all or what?! I don't know!!!! UHHH I'm starting to think I'm not very good at being a mommy! I don't know what to do or whats going on anymore!!!!!! Any advice or opinons would be great! I'm so sorry this is so long. I'm just clueless right now! Is she spoiled or just teething?! Thanks so much!!

First your a great Mommie, she's happy and healthy, so your doing something right!! It's easy to second guess yourself, but try not to. I am so unsure about this new Mom stuff and my MIL has to constantly tell me that I don't do things right, (which means her way). So I feel like I'm flunking New Mom101. My son is cutting his first two teeth. Within the last two days he has turned into Oscar the Grouch. He has been very clingy, and fussy and doesn't want to be left alone. He doesn't seem happy doing anything. He is even having trouble sleeping and he was doing so well for a while. If I put him down he freaks, but he can usually be distracted by a toy or a cookie. My doctor said to give him Motrin for his teeth. She said it helps with the inflamation, and lasts 6 hours. I have been giving it to him for the last couple of days when he seems really cranky. The doctor said to give him all of the tylenol or motrin he needs right now. She also said that he will be very uncomfortable when they first break the skin, just to warn you.
It also sounds like a bit of seperation anxiety too, it's about the age when it happens. Our son is alright playing by himself as long as he can see you, but if you leave the room he gets very upset. I think in his little mind he thinks I am gone forever. Hang in there, don't question what kind of Mom you are, but I know we all do it. And I totally understand what you mean about not getting anything done. I am wearing a pair of old maternity pants today because I haven't been able to do the laundry. Good luck.


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