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Re: Any help... marital issues???

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Posted by Marie W. on June 24, 2003 at 15:31:20:

In Reply to: Any help... marital issues??? posted by Shana on June 24, 2003 at 09:48:19:

: OK, I have posted before about some major issues me and hubby have. But here is my dilemma at this point. My son is almost 1. I got accepted to nursing school and start in August. Hubby and I DO NOT get along at all (has been this way for months)! A lot of this started as I was pregnant and he just could not calm down, he wanted to go out constantly and hang out all the time! He NEVER grew up! The day after I got accepted to nursing school (as I have been trying to hang in there for the next year)... hubby says he wants to go back to his "home country" for three months to see everyone and "hang out"! He never considered me or our son. What would we do? How would we manage financially etc! I have an offer to stay with family until I complete school... do I take it and just get out of this mess? Like a recent post I don't know what is best for our son. I dont want to destroy him or take him from his father. But at the same time I know my husband will have very little to do with him if we don't live together. Any ideas out there? He refuses counseling... or "working" together on this. In my heart I know what the right choice is but I am scared to death! Thanks in advance!

Thats a sad thing. I would say definitely go to nursing school. Accept any offer of help that you are getting from family. Maybe the temporary separation may do you good. He might realize that he misses his son and you and may decide to correct his ways. If it doesn't work out, atleast it will give you the opportunity to go to school and stand on your own feet. You have to decide what is best for all three of you - a compromise that both of you make for your son's sake, or fighting parents or happier but separated parents . Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

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