Posted by Denise on June 26, 2003 at 01:16:17:
In Reply to: Re: unhappily married with children posted by Sara on June 26, 2003 at 01:14:54:
: : You could try seperation.Promises,promises.People are good for making promises to change.All I remember of my parents marriage is violence.I was grateful when my mom finally had the courage to leave her husband after 14 years of abuse.Divorce is not the end of the world for the relationships your children have with dh.It actually might be better.Though he sounds like the type that will complain about the child support he has to pay!The children hear the yelling and it affects them as much as you.Don't pretend to have the perfect marriage,because you and your children deserve better.Seperate and try counseling again while seperated.Counseling does not mean the goal is to remain married.You could come to the conclusion that divorce is a better option.
: : Best wishes!
: : sara
: Thank you for your response. You're right. He is the type that would complain about paying child support. One of the times I told him that I wanted to leave he told me not to think that I was going to get any child support from him and talked about how the system is so terrible and takes mens checks. When he believed that I was serious about leaving he then said he was sorry for saying that and started crying for me to forgive him. I am beginning to think he is just an actor and is very good at making me feel guilty.
: I know I need to get the courage to leave and I will. I am worried about how to explain this to my children though especially because they are still pretty young and not sure if they will understand.