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Grandparent issues....sorry LOOONNNGG!

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Posted by Shana on August 13, 2003 at 10:09:22:

Someone please help me on this one! I have been a SAHM since ds was born, because I don't trust ANYONE with him! I hate that I feel that way, but just want everyone to understand where I am coming from here. I even put off returning to school for this reason.
Here's the situation: My mother and step father moved down here from Massacusettes (I am in florida) just to be closer to ds. Not to put men down but a little info about SF... he is nearly 50 never had kids and is VERY self-centered and immature! Well, they have been here nearly 3 mos and they are questioning as to why I don't allow them to watch ds for me. I am just uncomfortable with ds being with SF! We have had many get togethers, and I was hoping during that time that ds would get comfortable with him and that I would become more comfortable with him around him. But he has shown me nothing but ignorance! He feeds (one year old) ds anything he is eating whether he likes it or not! He does not watch him carefully, he lets him go and do whatever he wants! He also plays VERY rough with him... tries to scare him a lot etc! Ds winds up crying most of the time!
Another problem is they have a pool and though before said they would get a fence around it, have chosen not to. This makes me VERY worried! As they will often sit and watch ds run around and not walk with him around the pool!
What do I do in this situation? My mother is very understanding of my feelings and concerns. But it seems that her husband's feelings are more important. If he says jump... she jumps! I have tried to talk with her about it, but she just isn't getting it. I am now getting the third degree almost daily as to why ds isn't over there more! And yes I know I am being over protective... but even my husband sees it and has said that he doesn't want ds to be over there without one of us. Any advice on this one?

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