Posted by Elizabeth on August 21, 2003 at 04:05:53:
In Reply to: Re: Off topic question regarding harvest crusade. posted by Dana on August 20, 2003 at 23:54:25:
Thank you for your response. I understand days can be pretty hectic and you got that right about African culture being different than ours. A friend of mine married a man of African culture and every thing is so different. She has learned to lean more toward his beliefs.
My days have been pretty wild also. I am having a difficult time keeping up with work lately. The hospital has a 24-hour turnaround time and there just seems to be so many ill people this month that I am about 2 days behind, and I only work when my girls are asleep. I am also going to start posting on here once a day and only to a couple of posts at least until I get my work caught up. The worst thing is that I am doing nothing but children this week and it can be pretty depresssing. I try not to take my job personal but it just breaks my heart sometimes.
Thank you so much for all of your great information. You are so right, and I really hope the religion situation does not cause any problems between us. I did have a talk with him last night and has agreed to just go to all of his psychological classes, bible studies, and be involved in church and not become a pastor. I will accompany him to Christian church one day to see what it is like. He also has agreed to go on some Catholic retreats and then we will take it from there and decide. I also do not want to confuse our children with 2 different religions, so maybe we will both convert to Christians or stay Catholics. What I do see is that he is being a wonderful person. To me that is all that matters right now, just that he keeps being that way. If that is what helps him, then that's great for our whole family.
You mention you have mellowed more over the years in regard to your religion, why do you believe you did? I think he may be just at a high right now also just like you were. I believe the important thing is just be a good person all around. My definition of a good Catholic or good Chistian is believing in God, dedicated some time for him, doing what is expected from him - being a good person, helping others, etc.
One thing that does get me upset is that some people seem very religious and a lot of those are just plain hipocrits. Some come out of church cussing or go back to doing the same horrible things they were doing before right after church.
Well, I am just going to wait and see what happens. You are right about trust being difficult with abuse, but I will not tolerate this behavior again and would not want to put my children through that, so I will leave him for good if he does turn into his old self again. I think that is also what is helping him change. He knows I am not bluffing.
Thanks again for all the kindness you have shown. We will talk again, of course when we are not having hectic days. By the way, my neighbor is still in her cell. Thank God!