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Re: what should I do?

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Posted by Mels on September 01, 2003 at 13:52:06:

In Reply to: Re: what should I do? posted by to mels on September 01, 2003 at 11:18:54:

: But if you were me and you are pregnant, what would yo do? Thanks, keep posting.........

Hi...I really can't say because we're not the same person. I don't know all your circumstances. I can tell you I was pregnant at 18 and kept my baby. But the father was not involved. I made the decision to keep my baby based on whether or not I could do it 100% alone, still paying all my bills & working, etc., and it was lucky I did, because the father did not help at all. In fact, he disappeared, literally. He moved out of state & went to college. I knew my parents weren't going to help--in fact, I was paying them rent. It was hard. I had to go to a clinic instead of a real doctor because I couldn't afford medical care. My son had a lot of thrift-store clothing. I never had an extra penny. But he was worth it.

It is very, very tough to be a single mother. As you think about it, keep in mind that you could--not will, but could--wind up doing it all alone. Think long & hard about that. Do you feel up to it? Are you willing to give up a lot to have the baby? If so, then yes, have the baby, b/c as tough as it is, it will still be worth it.

If the answer is no, then nobody can fault you there, either. You could either abort or give the baby up for adoption. (I am sorry if that hurts anybody who doesn't believe in abortion. I know it's tough to hear that if you've been trying hard to get pregnant or if it's not your belief.)

What I would do is what I said before: I'd get a test, right away. You could even test mid-day since you're late. You don't have to use first-morning urine. Get a test so you can put your mind at ease. If it's negative, then you don't need to worry about it for now. If it's positive, then there's no saying how you'll feel at that time. You might surprise yourself!

Please let us know what the test says.


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