Posted by Mels on September 02, 2003 at 13:27:10:
In Reply to: To Mels..... posted by Kelly M on September 02, 2003 at 10:39:49:
Kelly, thank you. I tend to have a major chip on my shoulder about the whole issue. I have a lot of friends who have had abortions. So the big question when I had Joey was, "Why did you have the baby? Isn't it irresponsible to bring a baby into the world when you're so young & you can't afford him, and there's no father in the picture?" Then years later when I had an abortion: "That's murder." I know what the answer is. The answer is, don't have sex and you won't get pregnant. I mean...I know that...everybody does. The problem is, it's hard to be an adult in a commited relationship and not have sex at all. So it's a dilemma.
I guess there's no real answer to the whole issue...we all just do the best we can do. Thanks so much for your kind words.
p.s. Do you have children?
: Hiya Ive just read both your storys on here and the birth board.
: Im sorry to hear about your birth i can not imagin what that felt like, I hope your on the mend now and best of luck.
: About the abortion issue i totally agree with you. I don't think you had explain yourself tho but i can your point. I think what ever we choose to do with our pregnancys (Abortion, Adoption, keep the baby) Its all very emotional and we have to live with the desion we make.
: Abortion: you will never forget. Guily feeligs and a emotionaly wrecked.
: Adoption: more than likey the same feelings as a abortion and the fact you have a child out there will it look for you later on, will he/she hate you.... Are the parents good enough.
: Keeping the baby: we are responcible for this little bundle for the rest of our lifes. Make sure he/shes fed/clothed etc, and its dam hard work.
: It makes me laugh because what ever we do theres always someone in the background saying we are in the "wrong", "Abortion is murder" "Adoption, How can you give your baby away after carrying it for 9 months" or "How can you have a baby you have no money your not married etc"
: And ppl make feel like we comment a crime simply b/c we feel pregnant.
: Anyway sorry to go on, I wish you and your sons well, Good luck for future
: Kelly M
: P.S..... Im not trying to start a issue with anyone, or start any debates.