Posted by Marcia on September 03, 2003 at 14:57:53:
In Reply to: what should I do? posted by gina on September 01, 2003 at 10:35:15:
Hello ~ I've never posted here before and ran across your post looking up something for my baby. I'm a 22 year old mother of two children. Daughter age 2 (soon-to-be 3) and a son age 5 months.
I can relate a bit on having a child sooner than you want. I did graduate high school, but was all set for college and my parents had it paid for. Well, I got pregnant with my first child at 18 and wasn't able to finish college (being so sick), got married, and wasn't able to find a job that would pay enough for daycare. I then, after she was two years old, decided to go back to school, got enrolled, and paid for it. Then found out I was pregnant with my son...I have been kinda disappointed that I haven't been able to go to finish school. The point is, I wouldn't change a thing. My children mean the world to me. My husband is very supportive and loves me and the children. If your BF is willing to seriously take care of you and the child, then by all means don't get an abortion. There aren't many men out there like that these days. When I got pregnant with my first child, my family was devistated (future ruined...the whole bit), but then they saw what a blessing the child was and how much they loved the child and that all changed. By the time my second child came to be, they were thrilled and not disappointed.
It is VERY hard to raise a child. I've never had any younger siblings or been raised around any, so it was all new to me. I took some classes in my community, met a few new moms, and got on some message boards. Trust me, having and raising a child is worth every minute. Your family should learn to accept it once the child is born and they see what a beautiful miracle it is.
Well, sorry for rattling on...Hope you find some of what I said useful or insightful.
~ Marcia =)