Posted by gina g on September 10, 2003 at 11:15:36:
In Reply to: Not sure how to handle this one... posted by Kelli on September 10, 2003 at 01:17:53:
: I had probably the most horrible experience in all of my parenting tonight, and I don't know how to discipline my daughter for it. The neighbor girl and my 4 year old daughter were playing at the neighbor girls house. At somepoint, they came to our house and got the spray paint I left on the deck (my fault for leaving it out) and then went to the church next door and proceeded to paint it (the neighbors fault for not watching them). My daughter is very insistent that it was not her idea and that the other girl told her she had asked me if they could paint and I had said it was okay, both of which I believe. But I am at a loss for how to disipline her, other than not allowing her to play with the neighbor anymore (which I've already done). She needs to realize that this is going to cost my husband and I hundreds of dollars to fix and I don't know how to convey that. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
I don't think people give children credit for the ability to understand things. My son at 4 years old was completely able to understand that with things that are done wrong come consequences (spelling?). If you start to teach them young they will grasp the concept. There really isn't too much you can do to punish her than what you did, just make sure you completely explained what she did wrong and it makes you feel. Children do understand if you talk to them right.