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Re: Not sure how to handle this one...

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Posted by gina g on September 10, 2003 at 11:18:43:

In Reply to: Re: Not sure how to handle this one... posted by Ashley on September 10, 2003 at 10:20:15:

: : : Hi Kelli

: : : At 4 years old, I don't believe your child could have possibly understood the consequences of her actions. Although, it is tragic that it will cost you a lot of money to repair the damage done, personally I wouldn't feel anything other than an explanation about the seriousness of her actions would be of any benefit. Even with an explanantion she still too young to fully understand what the loss money will mean to you. To a child money is ever abundant and something you simply take from your purse or go to the bank for. You are right, your neighbour should have been supervising the children more closely, but as you acknowedged, you are also partially resonsible, as the incident could not have occurred had it not been for the paint that was left on your deck (please don't view this as criticism because similar things happen to us all no matter how careful we are).

: : : Rowena

: : I agree what Rowena has said. Just tell your daughter what she did was very wrong etc. Personaly i would ask the other mother to get her daughter and your daughter to wash the paint of the walls as a form of punishment. Its no good taking pocket money away as Rowena said a 4 yr old don't fully understand the meaning of money.

: : Best Wishes
: : Kelly M

: Hiya Kelli
: I agree with the others but you need to punish her in some way. With my first child i used to hit but when i had my 2nd at 18 i relised that theer are other ways and punishments such as rinishing and washing of the paint will be much more efficiant than a slap. Also explain that u shud not trust other people all of the time. i would also ban sweets and tv for a day (pref same day as washing of paint). Your daughter needs 2 understand this is serious and even though money and pennies dont mean much to her make sure the things that belong 2 her that r precious to her are banned or taken away for a length of time.
: Best luck,
: Love Ashley x x x
: (remember god is with you)

I totally agree with you. My son drew on his closet door I made him wash it off and I took his tv and crayons away from him. It did the trick he hasn't done it since, plus he was 4 when he did it

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