Posted by Elizabeth on September 10, 2003 at 12:16:26:
In Reply to: Re: Not sure how to handle this one... posted by Rowena on September 10, 2003 at 03:23:45:
: Hi Kelli
: At 4 years old, I don't believe your child could have possibly understood the consequences of her actions. Although, it is tragic that it will cost you a lot of money to repair the damage done, personally I wouldn't feel anything other than an explanation about the seriousness of her actions would be of any benefit. Even with an explanantion she still too young to fully understand what the loss money will mean to you. To a child money is ever abundant and something you simply take from your purse or go to the bank for. You are right, your neighbour should have been supervising the children more closely, but as you acknowedged, you are also partially resonsible, as the incident could not have occurred had it not been for the paint that was left on your deck (please don't view this as criticism because similar things happen to us all no matter how careful we are).
I agree with Rowena. Yesterday, I was on my way out to my daughter's well-check appointment and I decided to use my other bathroom. I then came out and noticed my almost 2-year-old daughter had rubbed toothpaste all over her hair (luckily she did not eat it or get it in her eyes), all over our furniture, painted her whole self with it, all over the carpet, etc. My brother-in-law is staying with us and left the toothpaste on top of the counter in the other bathroom which my husband and I never do. So accidents happen. I am sure your daughter did not intend to do graffiti. I would just talk to her and explain how wrong it is to write or paint on other things rather than paper. If she does it at home on a wall, give her a little rag to help you clean it up.
Hope this helps.