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Work or stay-at-home?

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Posted by Marie W. on September 10, 2003 at 16:35:19:

For nearly four weeks now, I have been something similar to a single parent. My husband is working on a very important new project at work. He leaves for work before I wake up in the morning and returns home very late. He has been working every weekend. I am on my own with my two kids. I do everything alone. I have to take my kids wherever I go - grocery, haircut or for a walk. I have absolutely NO help from hubby with any of the housework. He does not seem the least grateful because he is so stressed out from his deadlines. On the contrary, he expects me to be patient, understanding and thankful because he is doing all this for "us". He keeps telling me that it will be like this for "some more time". I have reached the threshold of my tolerance limit. I am afraid I am going to blow up soon. The only thing that keeps me going is that I still manage to go to the gym for an hour while my neighbour watches my kids.

My husband is very career oriented and fiercly ambitious. This year has been a turning point in his career. I am scared to think of what is going to happen when I return to work in October. I too have a demanding job and I have my deadlines and ups and downs too. He does make enough money for all of us to live very comfortably. The thought of quitting my job has crossed my mind, but I am afraid that I will turn into a grumpy, overworked housewife. On the other hand, I am paranoid that our kids will be neglected badly if I go back to work. This is such a dilemma. I cannot go back part-time. I have been on maternity leave for almost a year. I either return full time or lose my job. I guess I can look for a new part-time job, but my current job is fantastic. I would appreciate any input from anyone who has some good advice. Thanks. And sorry this so long.

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