Posted by chelsea on September 10, 2003 at 23:42:42:
In Reply to: Re: Work or stay-at-home? posted by Marie W. on September 10, 2003 at 23:32:28:
: : : Hi Marie!
: : : It seems like we all have problems in one way or another. As you and I talked before, I was having other problems with my husband but not in the matter of house cleaning, etc. I am thankful for that. Things between us have been great so far.
: : : I know how you are feeling. I quit my job and also wanted to become a doctor, but I felt being with my kids was more important, so I decided to go to school so I could get a job working at home. It is great because I only work when my children are asleep and work when I want. You could try to do something like that or go to work part-time or quit all togeterh. Sometimes money is not everything and is especially if your husband can financially support you and your family.
: : : I think your kids need you, especially if your husband isn't able to be around much. It will cause more problems because then both of you are going to be overworked and stressed from both of your jobs, you won't have time to do much of your housework, and you won't be able to spend much time with your children. If both parents cannot spend a lot of time with the children, I believe at least one should.
: : : Good luck and let us know what you decide.
: : : Thank you.
: : Hi Marie,
: : I am a SAHM. I had every intention of going back to work after my son was a couple months old but decided that I would rather be home with him. However, there are those days I would love to get out of the house for 8 hours! LOL I think it's a personal sacrifice and a personal decision. I know some moms that HAVE to work and some that choose to work as well as other SAHMs. I believe you have to go with your gut on this one.
: : It is MY opinion that if you can stay home with them then do. I personally couldn't deal with someone else caring for my son. He drives me up the wall and how is someone that doesn't love him going to deal with that? Will they have the same amount of patience and TLC as I would? The time your children have with you is precious and short. Soon enough they'll be off to school.
: : When my children are in school, I plan to return to work part-time so I can be home when they get home. I'll always appreciate and admire my mother for being home for me.
: : Good luck Marie!
: : Chelsea
: Hey Chelsea, it is nice hearing from you. How is your baby doing? My little one, Arden is a brat already. Thanks for your advice. I am kinda thinking of staying home too. I was enjoying my own identity and financial independence, but not at the cost of the children, I guess. I totally understand what you mean by wanting to get out of home for 8 hours on some days, though lol!
My guy Gavin will be 1 in 2 weeks! Time flies. Arden is just a month or 2 younger, right? Gavin's getting to be a brat too. We call him our little bulldozer. He just plows into anything and anyone in his way. He was 26 lbs and 32 inches at his last checkup. He was only 10 months! :O. It's hard to stop him, lol. Glad Arden is doing so well.