Posted by Debbie on September 11, 2003 at 19:16:55:
In Reply to: Re: Smacked my child today; I feel horrible! posted by Kendra on September 11, 2003 at 19:07:16:
I also believe in spanking in certain instances, such as what occurred with your daughter. I believe in spanking when the child does something so dangerous that a "time out" or a "123" would never get the point across. Like Kendra said, not beating, but spanking. And a short explanation as to why it happened. My parents gave me a few spankings...each and every one I can remember..(there were a total of 3) and now that I look back, I really deserved it (such as when I pushed my 1 year old sister down a flight of steps onto a slate floor when I was 3 years old just because she had my mothers attention and I didnt).
I would have done exactly the same thing you did, but I would have been stricter...I would not have let her have extra playtime.
Dont feel bad, as Kendra said, rather a swat than a hospital stay from being hit by a car.
: Personally, I would have done the same thing. Unlike many others here, I believe in spanking (not beating). I was spanked as a child, very few instances however-when I did something really bad. And I turned out to be a good kid/adult. I won't spank my kids for everything, but for those times when that's all that will get through to them. However, I would not have extended the play time, especially if they threw a fit about it. When you start being flexible is when they try to take control or push the limits. I phrase things as telling what I want them to do not asking them if they will do it. If you ask they can say no. These are just my thoughts and everyones are different. I don't think you should feel guilty about it. It was a dangerous situation. I would rather have spanked my child than have them hit by a car.