Posted by Jamie H on September 12, 2003 at 14:51:27:
In Reply to: help! posted by Erika on September 12, 2003 at 12:49:13:
: I am 18 years old and will be becoming a first time mom at the end of the month... I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and am very close to his family but there is a problem ever since i became pregnant his family is now saying they want a paternity test because they dont believe that my baby is his. I dont now how to handle this situation it just hurts so bad that after 4 years they would insist something like that this is the point in my life when i need him the most I dont feel it necessary to do a paternity test for the sake of my reputation that makes me look like im some kind of cheater and will give me a name and not only that i feel embarrased to take one i dont want my Dr.'s to think i dont know who my babys dad is if anyone has been through this please comment i need some advice on what to do...
First off, congratulations on your baby!! I understand how you feel. My hubby and I were not married when we had our first daughter. It really would have hurt my feelings had his family asked me for a paternity test, and would have embarrassed me too. As long as your boyfriend is asking you to take it, I wouldn't do it. You can't always please his family. If he feels certain the baby is his, and wants to stand by you, his family should support him. I would suggest maybe sitting down with the family member and asking them why they are asking you to do this, and let them know that it really hurts your feelings that they have so little trust and faith in you. Good Luck!!