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Re: Daughter's Saturday Detention

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Posted by Shana on September 13, 2003 at 13:58:03:

In Reply to: Daughter's Saturday Detention posted by Claire on September 13, 2003 at 09:30:08:

: My daughter is serving a Saturday detention at school this morning (the first of two she has to serve) and I feel guilty about it.

: Wednesday at school, the daughter didn't have her Chemistry homework done. It was apparently the third offense and that results in a 3 hour Saturday detention. She then tried to lie her way out of it by saying that she didn't have time to do the homework because I was sick and she was taking care of me. Apparently, the teacher believed her and let her off with just a simple after-school detention -- any time they don't have their homework done they have to stay after school to do it. Actually, she even got most of the homework done in study hall that afternoon and consequently her time in detention was less than 15 minutes.

: On Friday, the school called me to confirm my daughter's story. I, of course, told them that I wasn't sick. Furthermore, I let it out that my daughter went to the movies with friends on Tuesday night after telling me that all her homework was done.

: Now my daughter not only has the three hour Saturday detention (technically, they call it "Saturday Study" when its for academic reasons) but also a five hour Saturday detention for lying about the reason she didn't have her homework done. She has to do the five hour this Saturday and then the three hour next Saturday. She also has to write 500 times, "I must learn that lying is unacceptable behavior at ________ _______
: High School and promise never to do it again."

: Naturally, she is furious at me for not backing up her story and I feel bad because she had planned to go camping this weekend with her friends and now she couldn't go because of the detention. That and the fact that she probably has a bad reputation with not only her Chemistry teacher but the Assistant Principal at her school.

I have to agree with Kelly. What kind of example would u make if u did lie for her? I would have to say I will one day find myself in the same position, as I can't lie to save my life. I think u did the right thing, she has to learn consequences for her actions. And though we are parents it is our duty to teach right from wrong.

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