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Re: Controversial question regarding spanking


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Posted by robin on September 14, 2003 at 11:42:17:

In Reply to: Controversial question regarding spanking posted by Christy on September 06, 2003 at 01:20:36:

: Hi, I have a 3-year-old boy and 4-year-old daughter whom receive a lot of love and attention daily and have tons of toys. I am feeling like a complete failure because they don't listen to a word I say, scream and throw tantrums for everything. My husband and I can never go out to dinner, the store, or anywhere without them throwing huge trantrums. The doctor says they are perfectly normal. If we are at a store, they want to run around everywhere and if I tell them no they scream and throw tantrums. If I put them in their stroller or shopping cart, they stand up and try to get out. If I tell them to sit down, they scream, even hit me, etc. My husband and I are not strict parents, so I really don't know what we are doing wrong. My husband and I are beginning to have arguments now because they are so out of control. He sometimes gets stressed out and then raises his voice at them. I then get upset with him because I think he shouldn't raise his voice, but then again they don't listen to either of us no matter what. No matter what I do. I have tried rewarding them for good behavior. I have tried everything. There are times when I feel like maybe I need to spank them when nothing helps. I have never spanked them, but I am feeling stressed out every day. If I even tell my daughter she needs to hold my h and when we cross the street, she throws a fit even for things that are for her own safety.

: Sorry if I am rambling, but I would appreciate some advice. Thank you.

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hlding hands and crossing the street and notlistneing is a definate yes...

the stopre thing i think we all go through that andits frustrating...what i try and do..andit doesnt really help to much but helps..i start to get ready say wher eim going..and that bad behavior isnot excepted there..so there staying home

as i leave them unready ...as they seeme getting ready and them not coming cause (bad behavior ) there is not excepted...they start arguing andthinking about it....i keep my stand though..till the end and they agree...

no bribe

when we are there and it starts up i go ok..ur going home and im coming back and finishing this again...start walking out the stror or toawrds the dorr explaining this to them again...with a im not puttingp with this face...

or even go to security guard and say see that manhe will tell u to leave the store if u dontlisten to mommyu here..he the guy who takes bad children \out of the store andsends them home

it takes a bit pf patients...and sayingit over and over but it doesnt look like an empty threat..and at some points they will behave not wantingto be where u arenot and what behavior is right for where...





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