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Re: "Accident" Problem with Neice

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Posted by Liza on October 11, 2003 at 08:44:32:

In Reply to: Re: "Accident" Problem with Neice posted by Rowena on October 06, 2003 at 16:27:10:

I certainly agree with you that the girl needs help. Unfortunately my sister and brother in law (as well as almost all of the family) don't see it that way.

To them, its all readily obvious that she's messing herself on purpose either in an attempt to get her own way or in retaliation for not getting their own way. They think I'm stupid (they don't say that, but thats basically what they are thinking) because the messings are obviously something the girl is doing intentionally. After all the girl is throwing a tantrum where she threatens to do it on purpose and the she readily admits to doing it on purpose. But to me its pretty obvious that its not intentional because the messings never serve to get the girl her own way but instead get her a mess that she has to clean up, an hour sitting on the toilet or in the corner and then usually some other punishment as well. Surely, my niece sees by now that messing in her panties always creates a major problem for her, so why wouldn't she stop it if she could.

Like I said, the problem is really getting my sister and my brother in law to see it my way.

: Hi Liza

: I agree with you that either this is a physical problem that needs help. Or a psychological problem that needs help. Most likely it's a combination of both. Has you sister taken your niece to a specialist? A family doctor cannot provide the necessary support in this situation.

: The medical word for this condition is 'encoporesis'. Some children's hospitals have clinics especially designed to deal with this specific problem. I would suggest you encourage your sister to seek help for your niece if she's not already under specialist care.

: Rowena

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