Posted by Kelly on October 21, 2003 at 00:50:24:
In Reply to: Re: Everybody SING! posted by Nicole K on October 20, 2003 at 23:41:20:
: : She's having my baby...
: : Yessir. My wife is pregnant again. We found out tonight that my boys can still swim. Mrs. Steve had been feeling kinda worn out and a little nauseous so we bought a test, and bingo. We're guessing she's about 4 weeks along. If that's true, Baby-to-be-named-later will be 2 years and one month younger than my little Hannah.
: : For those of you who have two, lay it on me straight .. how much harder is it really? I gotta tell you, despite the fact that we intentionally took Mrs. Steve off of birth control and were sort of wanting a second one, I'm kinda freaked out. I feel like two is going to be SO much harder. Help?!
: Congratulations Steve!!!
: Can't really give any advice on having two, as me and my hubby are not there yet. But I have heard from friends with more than one child that jealousy can be a problem sometimes for the first born. I guess the main thing is to really prepare her for the baby and get her involved as much as possible in helping "take care"of her new sister/brother.
Congrats Steve & Mrs. Steve - I can tell you a little about having two - my kids are 4 and 16 months right now.
It is a big adjustment going from 1 to 2, the most important advice I can give you is to make sure you make plans each day to do something special with the older one. I actually signed my daughter up for a tumbling class that started 2 weeks after my son was born - I got my mom to watch the baby so that my husband and I could both take her to her class - it was something special "just for big kids" that she got to do - without the baby and with mom and dad's full attention.
We also involved her as much as possible - we told her there was a baby in mommy's belly and she was going to be a big sister and we let her talk to the baby - it was also around the time that she was learning her ABC's so she would practice singing the ABCs to the baby. (to this day it helps him fall asleep) We turned her into a helper too - she brought us diapers and helped give him baths - and then used the baby bath tub for her "babies"
I think the more prepared she is the better the transition is. Our daughter was so excited about being a big sister that she didn't have any problems, but we didn't let her life change a whole lot either. We still did all the fun things with her that we use to. Not to say that we don't ocassionally have issues with sharing now, but we are working on them.
Good luck & Congratulations.