Posted by Shana on October 29, 2003 at 21:51:02:
In Reply to: Mother's separation anxiety+Inlaw problems posted by Misti on October 29, 2003 at 17:48:26:
: My daughter is now 2 months old and I still have bad separation anxiety over leaving her. I do not have any desire to go out with out her- and she breastfeeds so often, I need to be around. I enjoy being with her and I know when she gets a little older, I will feel more comfortable leaving her. I know that she needs to get a break from me every now and then, but I am NOT ready. My husband understands and there is no problem with taking her out with us. But- I don't fully trust my inlaws. They want to babysit and I don't trust them like I would my parents. Alot of their methods are old school- Putting them on their stomachs for sleep, etc- things you're not suppose to do now. My parents are up to date of these things and even though I told my inlaws- they still think there is nothing wrong with their methods. This scares me for when I do leave her to go out with my husband. Any advice on the separation anxiety and inlaws is greatly appreciated.
The only comment I have: Time flies by very fast! I too felt the same way you do. My ds is now 15 mos old and I still feel that way at times. If you are uncomfortable then don't leave the baby. Try different options though, just to test the waters! Try a sitter or a home daycare for an hour or so. You may find in the end your inlaws aren't that bad. Or you may feel more comfortable not leaving the child. As long as it does not strain your relationship with hubby, why worry? Good luck!