Posted by Jennifer S. on October 30, 2003 at 12:47:39:
In Reply to: Mother's separation anxiety+Inlaw problems posted by Misti on October 29, 2003 at 17:48:26:
: My daughter is now 2 months old and I still have bad separation anxiety over leaving her. I do not have any desire to go out with out her- and she breastfeeds so often, I need to be around. I enjoy being with her and I know when she gets a little older, I will feel more comfortable leaving her. I know that she needs to get a break from me every now and then, but I am NOT ready. My husband understands and there is no problem with taking her out with us. But- I don't fully trust my inlaws. They want to babysit and I don't trust them like I would my parents. Alot of their methods are old school- Putting them on their stomachs for sleep, etc- things you're not suppose to do now. My parents are up to date of these things and even though I told my inlaws- they still think there is nothing wrong with their methods. This scares me for when I do leave her to go out with my husband. Any advice on the separation anxiety and inlaws is greatly appreciated.
Hi Misti, you have every right to feel the way you do about your little girl. My son is 4yrs. and my daughter is 11mos. and I still have separation anxioty from them every day I go to work. And trust me, your little 2mos. old girl does not need a break from mommy! By far she needs just the opposite. That is the best bonding method is to be with your children and embrace them all the time. I am very embracing with my children, of course my daughter doesn't want to leave my hip EVER, but that is just her personality. My son I raised the exact same way as I am doing my daughter and he could have cared less if I put him down or left him with someone. So don't fear that you are going to spoil her either. It's impossible to spoil a baby that young in age.
I say be with her as much as you want and I wouldn't trust just ayone with my children either. They are only this age once, take full advantage of it...there will be plenty of time later in life without your kids around when they get older.
Enjoy your little girl...
Best of luck