Posted by Elizabeth on November 02, 2003 at 16:27:32:
In Reply to: Re: temper tantrums posted by Debbie on November 02, 2003 at 13:02:32:
I don't know what happened to my post because everytime I go into it, a post by Kevin pops up, so I will post it again.
I would really appreciate it if you would tell me a little bit about the book. Although sending my daughter to her room works, I would like to know other ways that would work as well. What are the types of discipline that are mentioned in this book as a solution?
How is your son doing? Does he still get out of his car seat? My 2-year-old doesn't do that anymore because one day I told her if she did it again we would go home and I would send her to her room. She did do it again and I sent her to her room for 1 minute and then talked to her regarding the importance of staying in her seat. She never did it again. This form of discipline really works for us, but it is nice to know other ways other than spanking.
It is surprising how many parents really do spank their children though. A very nice, well educated couple that lives next door to us has an 18-month-old little girl who never throws any tantrums and I always wondered why. One day, I was talking to the father and asked him why I have never seen her throw a fit and he told me it only took one time to resolve the problem. He said 1 day she was throwing a huge tantrum for about an hour for no apparent reason and warned her that if she did not stop he would spank her. He said he spanked her once on the bottom with his hand and that she never did it again. Now, she just talks instead of screaming and is able to reason with her.
I too was spanked as a child on rare occasions and was very well behaved. My mom said my brother, sister, and I never threw fits in stores because we knew we couldn't get away with it. I don't hold their form of discipline against them because I always knew they were very loving also and love them dearly, even though I don't agree with spanking and they have told me before that my 2-year-old needs one.