Posted by Martin on November 03, 2003 at 21:14:28:
In Reply to: First time mom, HELP!!! posted by Charlie on November 03, 2003 at 20:45:34:
I feel for you with this - it will seem very hard and as though it will never stop but beleive me, it will.
First of all, make sure you and the Doctor are happy with the baby's health.. Then you can work from there..
There are a number of things you can do. Experts will always give great advice - but it only great advice when it works - and not all things work! In most cases, it means experimenting.
One way to approach it is to try and think of the basic psychology of it all for the little one - they are cleverer than some people think even at a young age. If she cries and you are there every time, she will always do it. With some children, it works to let them cry for 20 minutes or so (I know it is hard), go and hold them for a short while and do it again. You might have a week of it but in the long run, it will settle down and she will know what to expect - and just go to sleep.
Try playing soft music and carry her gently to her cot.
Try leaving a small light on or leaving the door open slightly.
There are many things to try and I know it is frustrating but have faith that you will work something out if you experiment (remember to experiment one thing at a time for a while - one night of experimenting may not be enough!)
One more thing - I noticed you said you are a single mother... If you have any chance of some help off family or friends, ask for it. You need a break - it is good for you which in turn will be good for your daughter. It is not the end of the world if help is not around but just remember that is mum is not happy, baby will stuggle to be happy! So make sure you look after yourself too!
Good luck. I hope it works out - keep us up to date!