Posted by Elizabeth on November 05, 2003 at 13:17:31:
In Reply to: Disciplining 11 month old posted by Sue on November 05, 2003 at 11:38:15:
: My 11 month old can't walk yet but he can get out of walker, his high chair and climbs the gates. He won't stay in his bath seat anymore either. Now he only wants to stand in the bath tub. He's also constanly getting into things that are "unallowables" as we call them. I'm a nervous wreck. I am constantly telling him no or get down, etc. I have been giving him a hearty "no" when he does any of these things but he either doesn't listen or he'll have a tantrum. My Mom says that I should smack his hand when he's not listening? I know it worked with us but I don't feel comfortable about it. He probably already thinks that his Mom is mean. How should I be handling this?
You are going to have that problem until they are about 3 years old. You have to keep everything out of his reach except for things that are safe to play with even if it means putting things very high. I have safety locks in some doors also and have 1 door with bowls that my 2-year-old can open and play with. Yesterday I went to my room to get dressed and my 2-year-old dissapeared for a second. I went to look for her and she had colored all over the kitchen wall with permanent marker. I put it on the kitchen counter thinking she would not reach it and she got a little stool, got it down, and graffitied the wall. I was worried that we were going to have to paint the kitchen. Good thing I got a wet rag with a little bit of bleach because the nail polish remover wouldn't take it off and it did not ruin the paint.
In dangerous situations where a child cannot understand words and keeps doing the same thing over and over, psychologists and experts believe a smack on the hand is the only way to get the message across.