Posted by Sal on November 10, 2003 at 16:16:15:
In Reply to: I know this is a parenting board, but I need opinions! posted by Lonely on November 10, 2003 at 16:00:48:
This is my opinion. Staying married solely for the happiness of your child, is not a good reason. First, even as young as your daughter is, she probably notices that mom and dad fight all the time and are not together. What happens when she gets older (6 or 7) and stays at a friend's house and then come back home asking "why mom and dad don't sleep in the same room"? She can probably see and feel that there is no love between the two of you now. Second, are you going to be miserable for the rest of your life? What happens when she turns 18 and goes off to college? Only then are you going to start building a new life for yourself with another person? I would just get a divorce and make sure the dad is still an important part in your daughters life, and for that you don't need to live together. I know several couples who divorced and both parents spend plenty of time with their kids. Also, a divorce now would be much easier on the child than when she is 10 or 11, or in her teenage years. Right now she would adapt very quickly. So please think about what you are doing not only to your daughter but also to yourself - you are not happy, and if you are not happy your daughter won't be either.