Posted by Elizabeth on November 10, 2003 at 16:25:49:
In Reply to: I know this is a parenting board, but I need opinions! posted by Lonely on November 10, 2003 at 16:00:48:
I am a very honest person so you will get honest opinions from me. Sorry you are in a troubled marriage.
I don't believe in an open marriage as it sets a bad example for your daughter as she will eventually find out. It is also wrong.
My marriage became very rocky to the point that my husband became violent. I felt I needed to leave him which I did for a couple of months. We are now back together and things are wonderful adn feel I love him very much. Counseling has helped. He has been seeing a counselor, going to anger management classes, and we are very involved in church now. You could try all of these things together and once you both start changing the love for eachother will begin to come back. It is like starting over.
Also, you have to think that if you do get a divorce or an "open marriage," you might end up meeting somebody worse than your husband and regret it later. I would get a divorce as a last resort after you have tried getting all the help, etc.
Please give me an update and good luck to both of you.