Posted by yvette on November 13, 2003 at 15:05:04:
In Reply to: I know this is a parenting board, but I need opinions! posted by Lonely on November 10, 2003 at 16:00:48:
: I know there are a lot of very cool, intelligent people here, so I wanted to get your opinions on something: open marriage.
: Here's the scenario: My husband and I are miserable together. There is absolutely nothing between us anymore. We sleep in separate bedrooms, we have sex maybe once every 3 months, and when we are in the same room, we fight constantly.
: We have a one-year-old daughter who means everything to both of us. This is why divorce doesn't seem to be a pleasant option for us. There is no way that either of us could bear to be separated from our little girl.
: I can already hear all of you saying, "Marriage counseling!" But I am very skeptical of that idea. I don't see how a counselor could teach me how to love my husband again.
: This is where the idea of open marriage comes in. I would love to be able to spend time (and I don't mean just sexually) with other men, as I am very lonely for companionship and conversation. This way my husband and I could raise our daughter together, but not feel trapped in a loveless, unhappy marriage.
: So, my question to you is, have you ever known anyone who has had a successful open marriage? And what do you think of the whole idea? I just want honest opinions please. But keep in mind that the only other alternative is divorce. Thanks in advance for your ideas and opinions.
I am friends with a couple who are in the same boat. They live together but have an "open" relationship. Only you know if you are happy and clearly you are not. So if this works for you guys then best of luck to you.