Posted by Betty on November 18, 2003 at 16:29:23:
Imagine you and your husband moved across the country two years ago. The move was job- related for your husband, and you supported the move to _____ because his parents and your parents (your one year old's grandparents) all lived within an hour and a half of your new location. You are a stay-at-home mother and have had difficulty securing a job in either state. You're 29 and you have been chasing your 39 year old husband's career for a number of years..
Two years later, after much consideration and difficulties in your new home and location, your husband tells you there is a job back in Oregon, the state where you moved from two years ago. You are not crazy about the climate where you currently live, but you want to give it some more time before fleeing back to the West Coast. You also fear your parents will miss their grandchild desperately. But your friend says, "Your marriage will not survive if you stay where you are. His job simply isn't going to get better, and you will have a miserable husband."
What would you do? And how would you make your decision?