Posted by Steve on November 19, 2003 at 22:10:20:
In Reply to: sorry not a parenting topic, maybe someone could help tho posted by Kelly M on November 19, 2003 at 14:47:59:
I hate to say it, but it seems (from my completely detached and novice opinion) that he's had enough and is done fighting. It's sad when that happens, but if that's the case he's certainly had a lot of life at 94. If it IS the case, hospice care might be best. Look in the yellow pages or call a local hospital to check it out. Basically it's end of life care. They provide medicine to make sure he's not in any pain, and just try to make his last days as comfortable and pleasant as possible. Many times they offer an option of in-home or in-patient. With the in-home option, they provide a nurse who comes over as frequently as needed to dispense medicine or whatever.
My father went into hospice at age 63. He had a brain tumor and had a stroke as a result of it. He made it through the stroke physically impaired. About four months later he just decided he was too tired to do the therapy and take all of the pills. He started giving us a hard time about the pills and more or less stopped eating. I finally just asked him point blank if he "couldn't," or just "didn't want" to. He said he didn't want to. I asked him if he understood what that decision meant. He nodded his head slowly. Two weeks later, he died in the care of the hospice workers. It was sad, but the last thing we wanted was to keep him alive artificially or against his wishes.
I wish you all the luck in the world. Be strong for your grandfather and give him plenty of love. If he has decided he's done, respect his decision.