Posted by Krista on November 20, 2003 at 15:28:47:
In Reply to: motherinlaw posted by rixy on November 18, 2003 at 08:04:38:
It sounds like this is just her personality and having grandchildren has escalated everything. I wouldn't keep her from seeing her grandchildren. That could be cruel. You and I being mothers and not yet grandmothers we can not at all relate to what it's like for her. You don't want to look back as a grandmother yourself and realize how painful it must have been for her. You don't want any regrets. Stand your ground and not let her walk over you, definitely don't talk negative of her in front of your children b/c they will pick up on it and try to be as compassionate as you can. Although you meant well, she felt left out by not being invited into the delivery room. It's easy to hurt a mother-in-law's feelings and they stay hurt b/c you don't have the same type of relationship you have with your own mother. If it was your mom, you could make things better by talking it out and move on. Stand up to her if needed, but then forgive and forget. Hope this helps!
: My motherinlaw & husband dontget along (he is her second child) As a result, she doesnt usually have anything positive to say & until I had children, this didnt bother me too much because the problem was really between them. Once I had my first child, she was ok until she found out that my mother was in the theatre when I had my caeserean (along with my hubby of course!) My mother being present at the birth was unplanned but ever since then, my motherinlaw has been impossible to deal with, accusing us of associating with my side of the family etc. She takes it out on us & consequently, this affects my daughter as she doesnt always have positive things to say to her (she can be good a lot of the time towards my daughter) I have always had a problem dealing with dominant & sarcastic people & she is all that in a nutshell. She doesnt really have much to do with us & doesnt see her grandchildren much either. Is it wrong for me to keep my children from her at times because I dont like her character or should I allow her to keep upsetting me just to keep the peace? Please help!!