Posted by maria on March 19, 2004 at 23:25:13:
In Reply to: I know this is a parenting board, but I need opinions! posted by Lonely on November 10, 2003 at 16:00:48:
: I know there are a lot of very cool, intelligent people here, so I wanted to get your opinions on something: open marriage.
: Here's the scenario: My husband and I are miserable together. There is absolutely nothing between us anymore. We sleep in separate bedrooms, we have sex maybe once every 3 months, and when we are in the same room, we fight constantly.
: We have a one-year-old daughter who means everything to both of us. This is why divorce doesn't seem to be a pleasant option for us. There is no way that either of us could bear to be separated from our little girl.
: I can already hear all of you saying, "Marriage counseling!" But I am very skeptical of that idea. I don't see how a counselor could teach me how to love my husband again.
: This is where the idea of open marriage comes in. I would love to be able to spend time (and I don't mean just sexually) with other men, as I am very lonely for companionship and conversation. This way my husband and I could raise our daughter together, but not feel trapped in a loveless, unhappy marriage.
: So, my question to you is, have you ever known anyone who has had a successful open marriage? And what do you think of the whole idea? I just want honest opinions please. But keep in mind that the only other alternative is divorce. Thanks in advance for your ideas and opinions.
it is so hard to live with someone when you are so unhappy with them. , but truly at one point you must have loved one another and having an open relationsip might be difficult if it didn't start out that way. you are fighting all the time which shows you both may have resentment for love lost. try counseling on your own too. it sounds like you need to find strength within yourself to start to do the right thing for you and it is often helpful to have someone to talk to about what is going on inside you that is not part of your daily life.